Many people get worked up after getting a date. It does not matter if this is their first time going on a date with that someone or if it is the second or nth time. They worry about how they can leave a great first impression. They even have unrealistic expectations which often lead to big disappointments. If this sounds like you, then know that it is never too late to do a bit of adjustment and make dating more fun and a lot less scary.
The first thing on your to-do list is to regain your confidence. You want to make your date feel that you are confident without looking like an arrogant person. Sometimes, fixing a few aspects of your life as a whole can be the key to rescue your dating mojo.
Don’t Be Afraid to Work on Your Insecurities
Every one of us has their own insecurities. But it is how you carry yourself and how you choose to face your insecurities that make a huge difference. Dare to overcome your insecurities and you will soon feel confident in whatever you do.
If your teeth are making you insecure and your achy wisdom teeth often make you miss important life events, then it is time to pay your dentist a visit. They can check on your teeth, advise removal of your wisdom tooth, or recommend other procedures as needed. The moment your pain is gone and your teeth are fixed, you will be smiling more in no time and feel more confident about your pearl whites.
Dealing with insecurity also means accepting yourself for who you are, including your flaws and your past. Forgive your past and the people who did you wrong. Stop comparing yourself with others and practice self-approval instead of seeking approval from others.
Impress Yourself by Wearing Something You Like
Most people going on dates with the goal of impressing their date. They tend to dress up differently to the point of wearing clothes that don’t feel comfortable but does make them look great. They spend a great amount of money on clothes, shoes, and accessories they will most likely wear once or twice.
People are so busy trying to impress that they tend to torture themselves. Instead of trying to impress your date by wearing something they might like, why not wear something presentable that you actually like? There is no point in buying and wearing things that will break your bank and will only make you feel uncomfortable in these next few hours.
When you like what you wear and you look great, you will naturally feel good. Your confidence will show even if you dress up in a simple outfit. Remember that your reason for going on a date is to find someone who will like you for what and who you are and not the price tag of your shirt or your perfume.
Learn How to Respect Yourself
Confident people know themselves well. They respect others but most importantly, they respect themselves. They look after their physical and mental health and make sure to only stick to healthy relationships.
The moment you start respecting yourself, the bigger your confidence will be. When you don’t respect yourself, you will are likely to talk negatively about yourself. It is easier to make self-deprecating comments when you are lacking self-esteem.
Start taking self-care as a priority and stop with all the negative talk. The more you find self-respect, the more your self-confidence will benefit. Take care of your emotional and mental needs and you will soon be more confident to take life challenges, even that date you’ve been dreading for a while now.
Stop Monitoring Yourself
We often feel anxious before and during a date because whether we admit it or not, we tend to make it about us. We expect ourselves to be on our best behavior and would go through great lengths just to dress to impress. When we focus on our self-perception, this only adds pressure to our already anxious mind.
What you can do instead is to try to make the date fun and engaging. Stop making this about yourself and start making the date about them. Ask about their interests, find a common ground, and strike a conversation.
Show your date your focus is them and not on yourself. The point of the date is to get to know more about the person, not just to sell yourself as a desirable partner. You will have more fun and forget that there is a nagging voice at the back of your head counting all your mistakes during the date.
The best thing you can wear on a date is your confidence. So, make sure you grow your confidence before the big day. Don’t be too hard on yourself and act naturally. Your true self will show up sooner or later. It will be better for you to start changing yourself for the better and the rest will follow.